Accepting Nothing Less Than You Deserve! Know Your Role!

So women we want all our man’s love and attention? You damn right but I also want to be his only girlfriend. Anytime you date someone there is a goal attached to it. There are two goals sex or a relationship.

So why are you women out her showing your ass so that he can like you? I recently seen a video (I’m going to try and post the link) where this one girl is in a room full of niggas and let’s them light her ass on fire! Like really you need that much attention?



I recently read a book titled “Hopeless” by Colleen Hoover excellent book but it covers how when a man wants you he will go through hell and high water to get you.

Listen I’m not going to sit here and bash female…. Wait yes I am because some of y’all do the dumbest shit!

Example: I have a friend who wants a relationship and I can understand shit I want one too. The difference between her and I is I don’t date men who show signs of only wanting sex. She will stay with a dude who disrespects her, dogs her out and sleep with her. Now if it were me I would have left his ass at the disrespect.

I don’t accept anything a man throws my way. (No matter what my ex best friend says or thinks) I am one of the pickiest people to try and holla at. Lol but in everything I do I know my role or place.

Never let a man disrespect you and then lay in your bed that’s just makes you look stupid. Next topic

There are three roles you can play in a mans life (4 but 2 are almost the same so ill add them together)

Wife/ Main Girlfriend – this is the woman he takes home to momma. The woman that he introduces are ‘My Wife’ or ‘My Girlfriend’. She cooks all his meals. And in a perfect situation she is the only one to have his children. If we are speaking about the wife she holds all the control in any conversation. 9 times out of 10 they live in the same home. So he sleeps I that bed daily.

Sideline Chick – this woman in some cases doesn’t know her position. I would say 9 out of 10 of these women are doing wife duties but sleeping alone. She cooks he doesn’t show up. She asks to meet family and friends he makes up an excuse. He always wraps up (Even tho I make men wrap up). She only gets conversation during work hours or booty call hours. She has not place to speak to him about what he does. She has no right to approach the Wife or Main.

The Female Friend – Now this female has been that man’s friend from day 1. Nothing sexual has ever happened. She is just a friend nothing more nothing less. She feeds him on occasions they exchange gifts on holidays and birthday. She is the one that listens to him as he complains about his Wife, girlfriend or side chick. She gives him advice on what those women are thinking about.

Those are your 3 roles. That can go for men and women (just change the sex)

Now if your a wife like my cousin Jasmine or my Battle Buddie’s wife Ashley. You don’t do your husband having that female friend. I mean I can understand them. And I know that they trust their husbands, it’s the women they do not trust. Which is understandable.

Some of these side lines could care less about your wife. I have a friend I will not name but her motto is “If I don’t know his wife and she’s not my friend. I don’t care about his wife’ that’s not my style but hey to each his other own. I’m not gone lie this type of side line chick is the worst possible. Only because she knows her place, she knows when and where to do any and everything.

Anyways she knows she’s my bitch no matter what so as long as I know she won’t be getting at mines we good.


Why do we assume things?

So this past weekend I was watching BLACK INK CREW, the receptionist decided that she liked one of the tattoo artist. So after the fashion shop that 2 other employees walked in she decided to sleep with him. When the previews for the following episode came on at the end it showed him flirting with another female. She seen this and got jealous. So this young lady decided that she needed to have a conversation with him. During this conversation, she decided to tell this man that they were together. The expression on this young mans face was truly priceless. But this happens so often in this society.

Women feel like because have decided to sleep with this young man that makes them automatically in a relationship. I am one of those females. The difference between me and most females is that I tell the dude. “Look Nigga if we fuck you belong to me” end of story and that’s lets him know if you still want to go down this street just know what you are getting yourself into.

Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. How are you in your mind to your friends this is your boyfriend, but you never had that conversation with him? It kills me when a female says ‘Niggas ain’t shit’! How? Here are 3 reasons that we as women 90% of the time do it to ourselves.

Number 1, we meet these men and the next day that is our significant other. Bitch please you don’t even know this man. Every woman is guilty of this at one time or another in their life. I was always told claim your blessings but that man is not your blessing. Take your time and get to know him. I’ve loved my first love since the first day I met him at SUMMEROUR MIDDLE SCHOOL. And I bet you all the money ill ever make in my life he doesn’t even know he was my first love. Mind you we haven’t dated since 1998 and we are still in communication with each other to this day. But I bet his is probably reading this right now thinking “I know Nikki not talking about me?” I said that to say get to know these men. I have never opened my legs for this man! But I know him: his goods, his bad and his ugly.

Number 2, stop sleeping with these men on the first night. I have spoke on this before. Know his last name. Know his family. Damn know how old he is. Since I’ve spoken on this before I won’t say too much. But anytime you sleep with a man and you can’t tell people what the father of your child’s name is, you have an issue get you life boo.

Last but not least, number 3, we don’t have a friendship with someone that we call our mate. In my opinion you must have a healthy friendship to have a healthy relationship. How can you truly love someone and not have a friendship with them? If you ask couples who have been married for 30+ years they will tell you that they married their best FRIEND!

I’ll leave you guys with one story, I have only truly loved 2 men besides my Father, Step Father, Grand Father, Great Grand Father, and my Little Brother. But I have been friends with one for 18 years and the second one for 8 years. Before you go around giving these men the world know them first.

Just to clarify I have cried over many men but only two have truly held the key to my heart. Ladies be selective.

Is this Generation a lost cause? Why is everything about Race? and more.

In today’s society I see a lot has changed. There are a lot of African Americans voting young and old. But are they voting for the right reasons. In my opinion a lot of these younger African Americans have no idea the issues at hand. They are merely voting because President Obama is BLACK!! Yes I said it!! If more than 30 African Americans ages 19 – 23 can tell me at least 3 issues and how they will affect them ill reconsider my thoughts.

A lot of the times I hear these young kids more worried about being in the streets, selling drugs, smoking drugs and getting fast money. What about the issue of student aide for college students? They don’t even have a desire to attend school during High School. These young females are worried about how much money a man has. What about going out and building your own empire? What ever happened to women fighting to have a voice? A lot of the younger women want to marry the baller, why? What can he do that you are not capable of doing yourself? I have seen more young females have babies than have a High School diploma. What kind of sense does that make?

I was reading an article the other day and it said

BREAKING NEWS: ATLANTA — Police have confirmed that a shooting happened at World Changers Church International Wednesday morning.

Details are still emerging, but investigators know that a person entered the church and started shooting.

At least one person was hit. CPR has been performed on the victim.

The suspect is described as a black man in his 30s, wearing a suit and tie. He fled the scene after the shooting.

The church, which is headed up by Pastor Creflo Dollar, is located on Old National Highway in College Park.

As I began to read the comments on it a young woman said

Tragedy yes, but why do we have state the color of a person when reporting crimes? Racist?

*Side eye* O_o What part of that was RACIST? It simply gave a description of the suspect! Everything does not have to be racist. If someone is out there killing people I want to know who I am looking for! Everything that happens and an African American is involved does not make it racist because they say “Black suspect”.

The first time I voted was Former President Clinton’s First Term in office. I was 18 years old I didn’t know why I was voting I didn’t know the things that it was going to affect. All I knew is that I needed to vote Democrat *Shrug* But then in 2004 I lived in Chicago and it was my cousin Deanna’s 21st Birthday so we all went and voted. Vote or Die was the theme for that year. This was Former President Clinton’s Final Term. I only voted because if you voted you got into a free Jadakiss concert. Again I didnt know how politics worked. In 2008 is when I learned what it meant to vote. I voted on November 4th, 2008 at a small church in Snellville, Ga and on November 18th, 2008 I swore in to The United States Army along with my cousin Jasmine

After joining the Army I began to see things in different lights. I have friends that are forever changed by the war in Iraq and Afghanistan. I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.

My only wish is that these young adults would grow up, educate themselves and stop trying to keep up with the Kardishans (sp) tell you how much I care lol. Worry about making a name for yourself and leaving something for your children. Hopefully 2013 will be a wake up call for these young people